Crying: More than Tears

Most of us in our childhood were taught crying was a weakness. When I cried I heard statements like, “What is the matter with you?” and “I will give you something to cry about!” I learned it was best not to cry or to hide my tears. Many of us grew up this way and some remain solid as a rock, holding in emotions that might generate tears. When my spiritual journey began I found crying was a great way to release emotions which were stored up over the years. I learned crying was not a “bad thing” and I usually feel great after a good cry. Recently I did a little research and found there are several health benefits of tears.

Most of us know – from crying – that it reduces stress and calms emotions. Many of us also know crying is a way to rid the eyes of irritants while lubricating the eyes. Crying releases endorphins – those “feel good” hormones while also detoxifying, getting rid of hormones that are harmful to different parts of our body. Tears contain a chemical known as lysozyme, a natural anti-bacterial that works to keep infections from happening in the eyes. And because the tear ducts are connected to the inside of the nose, crying cleanses the nose of harmful bacteria and irritants. Crying is good for relationships when you cry in front of others. It allows you to be vulnerable in front of others and allows them to take care of you, creating emotional bonds.

Spiritually speaking, I see Lightworkers shed tears for many emotions such as joy, gratitude, grief, inner peace and enlightenment. Crying may also take place in Coaching Sessions and Readings. Remember, water can move mountains, one tear at a time!


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Power! Confidence! Balance! Setting Boundaries

In my practice I have found that people do not understand boundaries and many do not have boundaries. Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that people create to identify, for themselves, what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around them. Boundaries include how an individual will respond when someone steps outside those limits. They are built out of a mix of beliefs, opinions, attitudes, past experiences and social learning.

Personal boundaries define you as an individual, outlining your likes and dislikes, and setting the distances you allow others to approach. They include physical, mental, psychological and spiritual boundaries, involving beliefs, emotions and intuitions.

When setting my boundaries it is a way of loving and caring for myself. I found that the boundaries I set in my life play a key role in successful, healthy relationships with others. My boundaries also help me manage my daily life. For instance, when someone I know calls me, they might hear me say I have so many minutes to talk and we may or may not need to talk later. When we discuss it we might go ahead and set up a good time for a call back.  When people visit my home I am very open about my boundaries. I let others know where to find extra water, snacks, the bathroom location and more depending on the situation.

The following are a few good tips on setting boundaries.

  • Know your likes and dislikes; know yourself
  • Identify boundaries you wish to set
  • Tell others
  • Stick to the boundaries you set.

Other people want to know your boundaries. It helps them feel comfortable around you and it urges them to honor your boundaries. When people know and communicate their boundaries everyone benefits. Interested in learning more about boundaries?


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